INFUSE JOY: A Podcast with Sarajane Case

Episode Twenty Seven: The Nitty Gritty of Self-Care

In today’s episode we are discussing the self-care pendulum and how to recognize true self-care from self-discipline and even rebellion.

  • importance of self-care

    • tony robins quote - “our brains are wired for survival, not happiness!” Life sends us into fight or flight mode so easily! Self-care helps us to slow down, re-calibrate and move with intention.

    • Self-worth is nearly ALWAYS linked to anxiety, so anything you can do to bolster the ol' self-worth is vital.

    • With self-worth, you feel stronger, more capable, more able to handle whatever the future brings. You’re less likely to beat yourself up and you handle setbacks more easily because you feel good about yourself as a person.

    • self-worth also helps us to make empowered choices about our career, partnerships, friendships, etc.

    • Better productivity. When you learn how to say “no” to things that over-extend you and start making time for things that matter more, you slow life down in a wonderful way. This brings your goals into sharper focus and helps you to concentrate on what you’re doing.

    • Improved resistance to disease. There is evidence that most self-care activities activate your parasympathetic nervous system (PNS). What this means is that your body goes into a restful, rejuvenating mode, helping it to fortify its immune system. So, with better self-care often comes fewer colds, cases of flu and upset stomachs.

    • Enhanced self-esteem. When you regularly carve out time that’s only about being good to yourself and meeting your own needs, you send a positive message to your subconscious. Specifically, you treat yourself like you matter and have intrinsic value. This can go a long way toward discouraging negative self-talk and your critical inner voice.

    • Increased self-knowledge. Practicing self-care requires thinking about what you really love to do. The exercise of figuring out what makes you feel passionate and inspired can help you understand yourself a lot better. Sometimes, this can even spark a change in career or a reprioritization of previously abandoned hobbies.

    • More to give. When you’re good to yourself, you might think you’re being selfish. In truth, self-care gives you the resources you need to be compassionate to others as well. Giving compassion is a bit like filling a bucket; you can’t fill someone else’s if you don’t have enough of your own! Have you ever been in a sales meeting while you’re depleted?!

  • What self-care is NOT!

    • self-discipline

    • self-improvement

    • societal expectation

    • indulgence to the point of added stress.

  • What is rebellion in self-care and how does that show up?

    • define self-care rebellion

    • this causes stress in other areas of your life and ultimately doesn’t serve you.

    • in all things be FOR good NOT against bad. Make your choices from a place of proactivity not reactivity.  

  • What is real self-care?

    • LOVE not care. ( define true love vs. idealized love)

    • nourishment and compassion.

    • examples

  • Make time for it!

    • schedule it in!

    • get some self-care accountability.

    • enlist the help of others when needed.

  • I loved talking self-care with you today! . Thanks for joining me for todays episode. As a reminder, leaving a rating and review in iTunes will help this podcast to reach more amazing listeners just like you and if you have a friend who you think could benefit from this episode, send it their way! In the mean time, I will see you next week!